The most common reason for doing a birth search is locating the birth parents. If this is the case, you need to be aware of some basic regulations when it comes to searching for your birth parents.
Adoption Law Reminders:
- Each country and each state will have their own laws governing adoption. You might even run into different laws by county. The laws will effect at which age you can legally retrieve the information, what information you can obtain, and who can request the information.
- Some states have “open records.” This means that you can request to see the original birth and adoption information. At the time of writing, Alabama, Alaska, Kansas, and Oregon were such states. Other states will release the information with some restrictions.
- When seeking adoption information, you should look where the adoption took place. This could be different from where you were born.
Conducting a Birth Search
When you do begin searching, there are some things you need to keep in mind as well. Unless you have someone willing to give you the name of the birth father, the process may take awhile.
- Keep an adoption journal – Write everything you find out down. This way you can begin piecing the puzzle together. Every bit of information will help you find your birth parents.
- Try to locate the father first — The birth father is easier to find because he does not change his name. If you locate him, he may be able to help you find the birth mother.
- Register in Adoption Directories — You can go online and register with adoption directories. Several exist to help reunite adopted children and their families. They work by children and parents registering. Then hoping the other one registers as well.
- Online Databases — You can search through adoption databases. Some may tell you the name of the birth parent. Then, once you locate the name of the parent, you can search records for an address or a phone number to contact.
Preparing for First Contact
As harsh as it may sound, not all birth parents want to be found. You need to prepare for this fact. However, that does not mean you should not look or that siblings would not want to be found. A phone call or a letter is better than showing up on someone’s doorstep. It is also much safer. Call ahead and give them a chance to adjust to you coming back into their lives after all these years.
Finding birth parents is easier than ever. You can conduct your own birth search now and start looking for your birth parents today.